3 a.m. Friends

There are friends and then there are 3 a.m. friends. I’ve been fortunate enough to have met some of these 3 a.m. friends along the journey we call life. These are the friends who you can rely on to bail you out from an unsavoury situation in the middle of the night. Not that I’ve ever been in one of these situations, thank goodness. Yet I know they would do that for me and I would do the same for them. I have however made a 3 a.m. call to a medical doctor friend of mine to seek her advice when I was ill in the wee hours of the morning and had just moved into a new apartment back in Sydney. Of course I had to seek proper medical treatment in the morning, but just hearing her familiar voice reassuring me that taking some medication would be the best decision until the morning when I could leave the place safely made me feel better. She had always made it known to me that I could call her at anytime if need be and that was the one time that I tested it out. She stayed true to her word and even in her groggy state managed to calm me down.

Sometimes friends aren’t able to be with you physically. It would be fantastic if like the women of Sex and the City, my best friends and I could meet every Sunday for brunch. But life evolves, people move away and base themselves in different locations. Thanks to the invention of technology, my 3 a.m. friends are only but a phone call away. Or these days, even WhatsApp and Facebook messages work. People have busy lives, but those who really care about you would make time in their busy schedule to lend you a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on when you most need it.

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I have come to accept that there are all sorts of people in the world. Some take offence when you only call them up when you need their assistance. But some understand that it’s only in your hour of need that you would want to take up their precious time in their otherwise busy life. Hence when people approach me to want to talk, I try to make time for them because I know what it feels like to be alone and afraid, sad and depressed. And that as social beings we’re not meant to go through life alone, that having a friend to share your burdens with, even if it’s only telling them your worries, makes your problems seem less insurmountable.


Friendships are to be treasured. 3 a.m. friends are a rarity. I’m grateful to have found some of them. I hope you have some of these 3 a.m. friends in your life too. And more importantly, I hope that you become a 3 a.m. friend to those of your friends who need one.

Till next time!